I spent two weeks in January creating my first course on Skillshare, an online teaching platform based in New York. It’s a step I’ve been intending to take for a while, and it did me good to dive into that creative process at the start of the new year.
One of the most useful habits you can cultivate as a self-developer is to periodically cleanse your life of the elements that no longer serve you. If you don’t make this a priority, your life will slowly fill up with objects, ideas and people that belong to your past, not your present, and you will find it increasingly difficult to move forward.
If I were to ask you what you spend your money on each month, in detail, you might think me rude for asking such a personal question. But I bet you’d be able to answer me, if you wanted to, with fairly exact information about what your rent or mortgage costs, how much you pay for your car or your education or your Netflix subscription, how much you put aside for your next holiday or your retirement.
This is a deceptively simple exercise that has surprising power to shift your mindset. It’s a quick way to get an overview of what’s important for you in your life, and thus is great to do in January when you’re anyway focused on your priorities for the upcoming year (aren’t you?).
This post is more of a journal entry that I’m sharing on Artist of Life. I now have the habit of writing myself this kind of ‘process post’ at regular intervals in the development of major projects. Partly these updates serve to check in with my original intention and to keep me on track.
This post is about ‘going dark’ and why it’s been an important part of my self-development process. A quick usage check in the Urban Dictionary reveals varied interpretations for this term, so let me be clear: I’m using ‘going dark’ to describe those periods of time where I withdraw from view by not posting on social media and/or reducing my real world interactions to the max.
The artist date is a wonderful exercise with a number of significant benefits. It enables you to practice making a commitment to yourself, and it demands that you create space and time for yourself. It also requires you to find a way to have more fun in your life. Each of these benefits will help you in multiple ways on the self-development path.
I am including some of my favourite self-development exercises on this site, and you are welcome to experiment with them. These are resources I use in coaching, and which have also proved to be valuable for me in my personal process. The first I’d like to share is the life balance wheel, or the wheel of life as it’s also called.
Self-development is a language. You learn to speak it gradually, by working on yourself. There’s trial and lots of error. One of the ways you begin to realise that you’re getting it is when you find yourself using the same descriptions as others when you talk about what you’re going through.
It’s that time of year again. Conkers are falling from the horse-chestnut trees. They lie gleaming on the ground like precious stones. This is always a special season for me, kind of bittersweet. Here’s why.